Have A Good Old Moan....

I know everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but i was taught to keep my mouth shut, unless i have nothing nice to say.

Ugh. Unfortunately, I think it's partly lack of education.

I know everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but i was taught to keep my mouth shut, unless i have nothing nice to say.

Ugh. Unfortunately, I think it's partly lack of education.

Ugh.  I agree... lack of education on proper manners and etiquette.  The nerve of some people will shock me to silence as well.  Sorry, Pippa... 🙁

My mother still likes to tell me how much she misses my ex-partner. You know, the one who emotionally and psychologically abused me for years. But he didn't actually hit me, so it doesn't really matter. I know she prefers him to my wonderful, awesome, fantastic, wouldn't cross his mind to mentally torture me husband as well.

Have shed more than a few tears about that.

I am sorry you had to experience this. "Birds of a Feather?" I am under the impression those with similar personality traits can sniff one another out. It is possible that is why she appears to like the other fellow. I had to pull away a bit and stop contemplating why my mother makes the careless ignorant similar comments. It can pierce the skin and I feel it may come from some deep jealousy or insecurity. I have to pull away from spirit suckers & focus on the good. So hard to do when you dream of supportive thoughtful parents and get something else. It takes practice!  😉

Whatever the case hang in there as you know your H gives you the things your M cannot! How lucky to have a Wonderful H right 😀

*hugs* Tabitha. My dad wasn't much better, when I told him I'd left my emotionally abusive and controlling ex husband after years of being desperately unhappy and having my self esteem battered to the point I could barely look in a mirror, he said that I just wasn't "trying hard enough" to make my marriage work.

It was right about then that I decided I would live my life for me and my children and no one else. I get married for the second time this August and whether or not my father approves is irrelevant. I am happy, as are my children, and I'm sure you are with your husband too.

I went to my Gp on Friday for few diff problems. Ive been having really bad headaches every day,he gave me a months course of Beta-Blockers few weeks ago which really worked well,they are migraines.The beta-blockers ran out 2days before my appt and headaches returnec returned.
I also have been having really bad pain in my heels esp when I wake up or been sat for a while really painful.Apparently its something called Plantar Fasciitis 🙂 weird name. I also have Hypothyroidism and Vitiligo which tend to come in pairs.

Cut long story short ( hard for me Im a waffler ) they all signs of Lupus esp the vitiligo hypothyroidism and Ive been feeling generally run down and tired . So off for tests for Lupus on Wednesday morning 🙁
Dont know much about Lupus and how it effects you ,promised myself I wouldnt consult Dr Google as will only worry me.

just wondering have do any of you suffer from Lupus or know someone who does etc. Got my fingers crossed its gonna be ok,but have strong feeling somethings not right.
Sorry for long waffley post 🙂

I don't know anyone that has it, but I know 15 (yes, 15!) women that have had been tested for lupus as they've had strong indicators it was lupus. None actually had it. They've mostly all had other autoimmune things, can't remember the names now though!

For one it was something a little worse than lupus, but she's amazingly on the mend now and coping with it. She'll possibly have more, nastier flair ups in the future, but she's back at work now and has little pain at the moment. She actually said, most of the time now, she just feels like normal with the normal aches and pains of someone just turned 50 🙂

Some were connected to arthritis. My step sister actually has the same thing as my brother. A severe form of arthritis. They both go through pretty nasty flair ups, but with medication it's pretty controllable. In both cases its connected to the psoriasis they had as kids.

For the rest, I really can't remember now what the final diagnosis was, but they were all lesser things.

From what I understand of lupus, it behaves the same way as other autoimmune diseases. As in, it has flair ups but also subsides. I think sun is a very common trigger, but that might just be for the skin rashes some/most (not sure) get.

Not so long ago, lupus was a much worse diagnosis and I think it still holds that scary feeling that went with it then. Now though, its very treatable! It's not nice, I won't sugar coat it, but these days its not going to shorten life expectancy because of the drugs and pain is manageable.

It does sound still like you have an autoimmune something or other, but it sounds like they're on the right track. With my poor brother, who from the age of 20 - 30 could barely walk from the pain in his knees, they just couldn't decide what was wrong with him and took 6 years to even get as far as the autoimmune bit!

Anyway, that's my sum knowledge of it. I hope I've not scared you more! It is treatable 🙂

*puzz* I can't believe I put the return addy on the wrong side of a mail envelope, and I didn't notice until I got ready to put the stamp on lol.

Hugs to all that need them

Mine is a moan that doesn't matter, but I wanted to let this plum fade a bit before re-doing it, but the front is purple, top pinky, sides silvery, back browny, grrrr

I think I need to go back on my citalopram tablets. I feel rubbish about it and like I've taken a big step backwards in my life, but I'm finding life really difficult at the moment so I think I need them again

I'm sorry Glitter - the same thing happened to me recently, but they've put me on Fluoxitine as Citalopram made me feel really detached all the time. I felt like I'd failed by having to go back on them but I'm glad I did - I feel a lot better for it *hugs*

feeling so unwell today 🙁

*hugs* to everyone.

Moonfairy watch the show house. It's always suspected, but rarely is lupus. Plus it's a good show..

Wow! Some of you poor ladies are going through some tough times! I don't really have anything to that degree to whine about. Hugs to you all and try to remember the positives if you can, or go eat a big block of yummy chocolate that works for me 🙂 (not my thighs though haha)
I guess all I can say in this thread are the annoying small things, waiting for my friend to do my hair despite already having waited weeks, my son not sleeping through his nap cause he's decided to poo halfway and jump in his cot, my hubby not home yet despite finishing work at 10 (at a mates place, he put too much oil in the car so fixing it but bloody taking his time mate!!!!)
Ummm waiting for saturday cause my bad food cravings are through the roof, and financial difficulties with too many bills to pay and not enough income.. stupid bloody piece of crap low wage with too much tax to pay the bludgers that don't work bah!

Edit: oh and I've gotta get tested for aspergers. Yay.

I'll probably find more to vent about but yeah that'd be it for now!

Edit: oh and I've gotta get tested for aspergers. Yay.

My fiance has Aspergers, so I know quite a lot about it, and also about living with it. Hope it all goes okay for you, but if you need anyone to vent at / talk to / ask questions of, feel free to PM me.

I'm sorry Glitter - the same thing happened to me recently, but they've put me on Fluoxitine as Citalopram made me feel really detached all the time. I felt like I'd failed by having to go back on them but I'm glad I did - I feel a lot better for it *hugs*

Thank you, I'm glad you feel better for it! I am inbetween doctors at the moment (I've just sent off paperwork to move gp surgeries to the one nearest me) so I'm trying to hold myself together for a few weeks til I can have an assessment and get put back on the AD's. I was ok with the citalopram, but the first few weeks on them first time round was horrid so I'm a bit nervous about going through that again til my body gets used to them