Have A Good Old Moan....

aw, that sucks Pippa 🙁 when i was a waitress at Olive Garden I had a couple customers that literally put me in tears they were such %%@^#@U#@ ^&*( ^^&*U  $%^&#!! the *** would be having dinner with his wife, then say to his wife some pervvy extremely, extremely rude comment like, "Why dont you look like her?" or "why dont you have a *bum* on you like she does?" then swear at her. shed look at me, fuming, humiliated, angry...then hed ask for one thing, id bring it, then say "WHY DID YOU BRING ME THIS this is not what i asked you for!!!" like, repeatedly! i told my manager and she told him to leave. it was awful 🙁 i hate having rude customers, dont let it get to you and just try to forget about it, he obviously is a miserable, unhappy man that doesnt get a quarter of the love you get just  from people here alone <3

I feel really down in the dumps today. 🙁
it's one of those days where I have nothing to do and it's freezing cold, so I sit in bed thinking. Not good.

Thanks Katie =)

I am SO sick of this one customer. He was quite rude about my appearance last week(bearing in mind he comes in 3/4 days a week since the store opened in April 2012) saying my hair will fall out and I'll be bald. I explained that, that won't happen as I know what I'm doing and the dyes are friendly. He went on about it to other customers for 10 minutes.

He came in today and said he'd kick the crap out of his kids if they came home looking like me. I said whilst he's welcome to express an opinion, I REALLY don' care for his opinion. He kept going on, so i said he's being rude and his words are hurtful. He then repeated it. His excuse is he's a traveller. I replied that's no excuse not to have manners. He then told me I'm pretty. He's such a dick, I really hate him!

oh my god!! get him out of there pippa!! the second someone says any thing personal i tell them to leave. Its not right that a silly customer is making remarks about you like that. you would never ever ever say anything about him, or any other customers personal appearance (unless you were complimenting them) so he shouldn't say it about you, I think retail is totally a two way street. A lot of people (older ones or those who are a bit old fashioned) do not share my view, and think they can say what they want. WELL MISSY YOURE WRONG! get ouuuuwuwuwuwttt!!  <3 <3 <3 <3

I hope everyone who posted recently is feeling ok physically and emotionally.

I know I shouldn't let what people say bother me, and usually I don't but today I found out a member of my husband's family sent him an email about a month ago telling him that my son(5) is retarded because he doesn't talk (which is unfair because he talks all the time to people who are nice to him) and my daughter (4) is "a retarded annoying little girl" who makes this persons life miserable. All sorts of nasty things about me that are total lies. The ironic thing is this person only ever insults me and my children and never has tried to get to know them. My husband says just ignore it because it's not true. I try so hard but I can only take so much you know? And to say that about little kids is horrendous. This person also was insulting me because I plan on home schooling and she thinks we don't take our kids to the dr enough- but they aren't sick! These are things my husband wanted in a wife and we talked about at length before we got married and I wanted as well. But I get blamed for all of it. I moved across the country to be with him so I am feeling really lonely not being around my family and friends for the holidays. 🙁

omg thats freaking awful! its one thing to talk crap about me, but to bring my KIDS into it?! hell no, bia. i dont even know what i would do. i know what i would want to do, but id end up getting arrested, so i obviously wouldnt actually do it lol. honestly, id send an email back saying what a miserable *blank* he/she must really be and i pray they get the mental/emotional help they need. it takes one seriously unhappy person to say things like that about kids, especially family! he/she must have some serious issues that they need to work out. id say until they can sort out their underlying phsycological problems, to please not contact (I.E. harass) me or my family again.

im so sorry about this, really. does this person have kids of their own? if so i feel sorry for them because they probably have years of pent up anger towards this parent which is not a good feeling/burden to have on their shoulders. try not to let it get to you, be the better person and pray that they can one day find enough peace to not have to lash out at those they are supossed to love.

Yeah I would just say leave me alone too but its a complicated situation and she lives with us. It's his mom and I feel like she must have dementia or something because a normally healthy person wouldn't act like that right? But on the other hand she acts like a normal nice person to some other people. We can't move at the moment and we can't kick her out. She is physically in such bad shape that she can't come downstairs very well so most of her nastiness is just yelled down the stairs or emailed?! to my husband. I also hear her talking about us on the phone all the time and I'm self conscious about the whole family believing her lies. She told everyone that my son didn't talk so many times that everyone was surprised that he talked normally last Christmas!

I fantasize about winning the lottery so I can buy a huge house in the country some where and have my family visit whenever I want!!

Sorry about your insurance problems. Have you thought of applying for medicaid at least temporarily to get some help until you can get other insurance? Also in Colorado you can go to clinics that let you pay on a sliding scale or super cheap compared to regular rates. The whole medical industry is so scammy. They WAY overcharge here in the U.S.! My kids have broken so many pairs of glasses grrrrr I know exactly how that goes!!!

oh gosh, wow, thats a hard situation! she very well could be in the beginning stages of alzheimers or dementia. my great grandma had dementia and it was so hard, really. the things she would say started off as just really mean and suspicious like, and gradually she knew less and less of us and thought everyone was trying to kill her? it was really sad and heartbreaking. i felt like i had to see her, i wanted to see her, but id start bawling immediately when we got there. i hope things get better for you and your family. the kids especially dont need to be hearing that kind of stuff.

and i feel ya, id love to buy a house out in the middle of nowhere with a big wrap around porch, but just so we all can just be away from people in general. where i live, most people are A holes, nosey, our one neighbors are drunks always sitting in their enclosed porch yelling at each other at 2:30 AM about what the lyrics are to an Elton John song....

with the insurance, it was medicaid that i was on that got cut off. because here, if you and the father arent married and the kids and the mother receive medicaid, the state wants the father to pay child support so the state can take a percentage out of it to "help pay back" what the state is paying to have us on insurance. so, considering jake and i are getting MARRIED, live together, and he is the one that supports us, ther is no way i would ever take him to friend of the court for child support. i mean, theres no reason at all. so the state considers me being"non compliant" and i dont have "good cause" for NOT taking him for child support. the only things the state considers "good cause" is if you are in fear of your life or kids lives by the father, or you were raped and have PROOF that you were raped, like a rape kit done at a hospital. thats it. so, since im "non compliant", my insurance was cut off. they cant cut off the kids insurance though, unless i were making a certain amount of money (which would still be considered poverty level) . so, im very thankful the kids have insurance, thats the most important. it just sucks mine was cut off. and i cannot afford to buy health insurance, especially with all this omabacare crap, anything that would have been just enough for me coverage wise yet still be somewhat affordable but not really, thats all screwed now...my obgyn is doing some looking around to try and help me get my tubes tied by her, so thank goodness for that at least!

That really sucks about medicaid! I would feel like a jerk too trying to get child support from someone living with you?! At least the kids still have it if they need it. I've been seeing people getting obamacare quotes for the bare minimum that are like hundreds of dollars more than the plan they had before! It's really despicable! 🙁

Codeine makes me sleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeepy.......*yawwwwwn*

ya its pretty outrageous to say the least.

i am SUPER annoyed right now. very. i feel like no matter what i do, its always wrong and not good enough for anyone. all i try to do is always the best i can, i always try to help everyone and make everyone happy and inspire people and give the best advice i can no matter what its about. i feel like i just keep getting shot down and criticized and b****** at for it! like im the most horrible person in the world! i seriously just want to cry. i give 110% of myself to everytone and everything, for what? things i have a passion for, just get stomped on because other people dont like it, or ignore what i say....i just dont even know what to do anymore. no matter what i do, its just always wrong, and everything i do is from the heart and never to be mean or anything like that...i just feel super inadequate and not good enough for anyone by just being myself....

Oooh Katie! :-*

I know exactly how you feel... I felt just the same earlier this week, felt like throwing in the towel completely.  It's really irritating when you never get good feedback; people always harp on the bad, point out something that YOU've done, bring a concern to you because something's wrong.  It's never positive and never uplifting.  You always hear about the bad.

Just speaking for myself, I always find you so helpful and understanding and compassionate and patient and think you must have a heart of gold!  Not to mention you're extremely knowledgeable and creative and passionate about what you do, and full of solutions!  I can't see how anyone would stomp on you, and it's such a shame you feel that way!

Tell them to go stuff themselves and to quit taking their personal issues and frustrations out on you.

Katie!!! I am going to have agree with Alexia! I always enjoy reading your posts because you always explain the WHY in a kind way instead of just saying don't do that! I have really learned a lot from your posts!

For about 5 years I was in a natural birthing group of women who were in Ireland. I have had 4 kids, 3 at home, and really wanted to help other women have a safe, empowering birth experience because so many women don't get that opportunity. On a daily basis I would help answer questions and I really cared about these people. One day a few loud mouths on the lists started bullying me and I felt the way you feel about people being unappreciative. I mean I did just spend the last 5 years of my life trying to give them the info they so desperately wanted. So I up and quit because I don't need that **** you know? You don't need it either. Whoever isn't appreciative of you is really losing out!!!

Thanks girls, it just feels like everywhere Iturn and with every ffreaking thing I do, someone has to point out the bad. Like it would kill anyone to say thank you? Ever? I know I sound like a pity pot, but this is how ive been really feeling the past month or so, and the same kinda thing happened again today and it really is bringing me down a lot. From the moment I wake up until I go to bed, which im usually sleep deprived, I just try to make everyone happy because thats what makes ME happy, and its like it just doesnt even matter. Im really glad ive been able to bring some sunshine to you two at least, thank you so much for always acknowledging me and saying thanks, it really makes my day 🙂

Haha oh god. I thought we had a gas inspection at 11am, turns out it was at 9am, so I'm sat her in my Wonder Woman dressing gown, scruffy hair and no face on whole this man wanders around my house lol!!