Hate my hair!

Have you got a photo?

Hmm... Maybe instead of using bleach on darker parts, opt for colour remover?

Tbh, If I were you, I'd leave my hair as it is, stripped as much of the colour I could, deep conditioned, left it for 2 weeks, wear it in a bun and stuff, and I'd try and fix the base colour, but I understand that you want instant results 😀 So go for colour remover. Good luck!

I've used colour remover a couple times not too long ago but it didn't lift the dark areas that much, just turned them a medium orangey brown.  My natural colour is medium brown and now there's been so much new growth since I last used permanent colour!  I'll see if I can get a decent picture later.

Did you rinse the dye correctly? It's a lot of work

Colour remover doesn't lift natural colour so won't make the dark hair lighter... Maybe I've misunderstood what you're saying there.

But if you want to get rid of the red, use a colour remover and then start over trying to lighten the darker parts. You HAVE to be patient even if you hate it.

Yes you are correct, my natural colour is dark and when I did a bleach bath I didn't have enough product to cover everything so it's still dark.  I've used permanent dyes in the past but nothing too light. 

So the next time I do a bleach bath should I remove as much of the Adore colour as I can first?  Does bleach work best when it doesn't have all the colour to work through?  I can wait a bit before I do anything, I just need to have a plan sorted out in my head to make me feel better...........

Do you have someone to help you apply dyes? Ideally someone who is experienced with hair dye, but just someone patient with an eye for detail will do.
Is the Adore the only dye on your hair now? I would fade out or use a colour remover to get back to the base. Then use a bleach bath mixture to even out the colour. Then if the hair is in good enough condition use a dark blonde demi with a low vol peroxide to put the ash blonde back in.
This cannot be done in a weekend though, a month is a more realistic timescale, possibly longer depending on how your hair responds.
A pic would be really helpful.
If you need quicker results would you be willing to sacrifice some length? How is the general condition of your hair now?

No I don't really have someone to help I could ask my husband, maybe....  Yes Adore is the only dye on my hair since a couple rounds of colour remover a few months ago.  After I fried my highlights (back in February I think) I've had layers cut in my hair and a couple inches taken off to get rid of as much as possible.  The bits of highlighted hair that are left are still fairly damaged but there's not that much of it any more.  The rest of my hair seems good and pretty healthy.  I'll try to get some pics once my hair has dried, I deep conditioned today and it takes forever to dry!

I'm really confused about the history of what you've used on your hair. What did you use the colour remover for?

Oh sorry, I have for years coloured my hair with permanent dye.  I usually used a light warm coppery brown.  I had it in my head to lighten it a bit and put Blondish highlights in it earlier this year.  I was having the winter blahs and tired of my colour.    So I tried a lighter permanent dye all over but it didn't actually lighten at all.  I should've stopped there but I went ahead and used one of those awful highlighting kits.  I rinsed it off too soon and my highlights looked fluorescent orange!  So what did I stupidly do, I covered everything up with a medium brown permanent dye, and then highlighted AGAIN, right in a row!  It was at this point my highlighted bits started melting.  I haven't dyed my hair with permanent colour since.  I've used low volume peroxide to roughen up my new growth a bit but that's it.  Until the bleach bath this week!

No I don't really have someone to help I could ask my husband, maybe.... 

Partners are very helpful...I've never seen Sam concentrate so much as when he's colouring my hair hehe

I tried taking some pictures, it's weird how much lighter my hair looks on the pics and I didn't use the flash. In real life it's much darker and a deeper red overall.  But at least you can sort of see the difference between light and dark patches.  In the back, the light area is just on the top layer, mostly on the bottom half, underneath it's all much darker.  SOME of it is due to my botched bleach bath but some is from former highlights.  Oh I forgot, I didn't take a picture of my hair right in front at the top, that's even lighter still and probably the most noticable.

I have to say, in the pictures it doesn't look so bad, in real life it's worse....really!

I just want to say your hair looks gorgeous, so full and long!  So keep that in mind when you say you hate your hair.  I "hated mine" for years (and my poor mother heard me say this every single day!), but mine was short and dry and puffy and unruly.  Yours really is pretty.

I second the colour remover suggestion, and depending on the condition of your hair I'd suggest trying some fading techniques that have been posted on this forum.  I've done multiple processes in a row (years back), and my hair was just never the same and had to grow out.

So if it were me, I'd stay away from bleach + peroxide for as long as possible, try some gentle weekly fading treatments and see what you're left with.  If you get more orange tones, they can temporarily be toned down with diluted dyes between treatments.

Hope you find more success with it. :-*

my advice would be to try some fading techniques (i.e. head and shoulders shampoo), maybe try bleach bathing again, perhaps doing a few deep conditioning treatments maybe with the Joico K-Pak, and then try dying your hair again.